21. Revelation (by Robert Frost)

WE make ourselves a place apart
Behind light words that tease and flout,
But oh, the agitated heart
Till someone find us really out.

’Tis pity if the case require
(Or so we say) that in the end
We speak the literal to inspire
The understanding of a friend.

But so with all, from babes that play
At hide-and-seek to God afar,
So all who hide too well away
Must speak and tell us where they are.

— 21. Revelation. Robert Frost (1874–1963). A Boy’s Will. 1915.

Quote of the Day: A Friend Who Cares

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.

— Henri J.M. Nouwen, Out of Solitude: Three Meditations on the Christian Life

A Seed of Truth

Maddy, he has fed stories of the lower world to you since you were seven years old. I would say that he has so far trained you pretty well.
Maddy clenched her hands into fists. What are you implying? That he lied to me?
I mean,” The Nameless said, that a man may plant a tree for several reasons. Maybe he likes the tree. Maybe he wants some shade. Or maybe he knows that it may one day be required for firewood.
-Joanne Harris, Runemarks

This quote is intended to express the following matters: the character of the story Maddy has been friends called with a person One Eye for seven years, but then she meets the Nameless, who makes Maddy doubt her friendship with One Eye. In other words the Nameless makes Maddy doubt the trust between her and her friend.

Trust is the most important part of a good friendship, and one cannot know who is a true friend before times are difficult. From this comes the saying “a friend in need is a friend indeed.

Without trust there is no friendship, or any relationships at all. Trust can be undermined with a lot of things. Doubt is one of these scourges.

Even without knowing it one can do things that make the trust one’s friends to disappear. In these cases an apology and explanation are the best cures.

A true friend takes into account the friendship in all his or her actions, and always thinks of the best friend and himself or herself. He or she is empathetic or sympathetic, honest, sincere, and there is mutual understanding among friends.

Sometimes, however, true friends can also come across circumstances where disputes are unavoidable by the two. The showing of angry emotions can be positive, as long as the partiesargue constructively, searching for a suitable solution for both.

“A true friend will never make your life more difficult – unless you’re on the way down.” -netti.nic.fi

In a friendship each party should have a healthy self-esteem. A true friendship is not where one envies the other looking for a chance to succeed on the expense of the one, or in which one uses the other. A friendship is not black mail!

Friendship may be be considered by some overrated. Such people prefer to be alone, but humans are social animals, and even hermit natured people need company sometimes.
Theoretically, all should have at least one friendIn fictional works the hero has usually a friend or friends, on whom the hero may count on almost everything. The fact is that several discriminated, bullied, beaten, and lonely people pass through, the world in need of friends.
Suicides, school shootings, and other bloody attacks would be reduced likely if people would be able to live in harmony. There are bad people always, but there could be less bitter peopleFriendship can prevent self-destructive thinking. A friend may also notice if something is wrong.

Scientifically viewed friendship is a phenomenon which is equally difficult to explain and explore as love, but recently with psychology, and magnetic resonance imaging it has been possible to study the reactions that friendship creates in a person.