“Maddy,he hasfedstoriesof the lower worldto yousinceyou wereseven years old.I would saythathe hasso fartrainedyouprettywell.“ Maddyclenchedher handsinto fists.“What are youimplying?That helied to me?“ “I mean,”The Namelesssaid,“that a manmayplant a treefor several reasons. Maybehe likesthe tree.Maybe hewantssome shade.Or maybehe knowsthat it may one day berequired forfirewood.“-Joanne Harris, Runemarks
Thisquoteis intended toexpressthe following matters:the characterof the storyMaddyhas beenfriendscalledwith a personOneEyefor seven years,butthen she meetsthe Nameless,who makesMaddydoubther friendship withOneEye. In other words the Nameless makes Maddy doubt the trust between her and her friend.
Trust isthe most important partof a good friendship,and one cannotknow whoisa true friend before times are difficult. From this comes the saying “a friend in need is a friend indeed.“
Without trust there is no friendship, or any relationships at all. Trust can be undermined with a lot of things. Doubt is one of these scourges.
Evenwithout knowing itone can dothings that make the trust one’s friendsto disappear. In these cases an apology and explanation are the best cures.
A true friendtakesinto accountthefriendshipin all his or her actions, andalwaysthinksof the bestfriend andhimself or herself. He or sheisempatheticor sympathetic, honest,sincere, and there is mutualunderstandingamong friends.
Sometimes, however,truefriendscan also come acrosscircumstanceswhere disputesare unavoidable by the two. The showing of angry emotionscanbepositive, as long asthe partiesargueconstructively, searching fora suitable solutionfor both.
“A true friend will never make your life more difficult – unless you’re on the way down.” -netti.nic.fi
In a friendshipeach party should have a healthyself-esteem. A true friendship is not where one envies the other looking for a chance to succeed on the expense of the one, or in which one uses the other. A friendship is not black mail!
Friendshipmay bebeconsidered by someoverrated.Such peopleprefer tobealone, but humans are social animals,and evenhermitnaturedpeopleneedcompanysometimes.
Theoretically,allshouldhave at least one friend. In fictional worksthe herohasusuallya friend orfriends,on whomthe heromaycount onalmosteverything.The factisthatseveral discriminated,bullied,beaten, andlonelypeoplepass through,the worldin need offriends.
Suicides,school shootings, andotherbloodyattackswould be reducedlikelyif peoplewould be ableto live in harmony.There arebad peoplealways, butthere could be lessbitter people. Friendshipcan preventself-destructivethinking.A friendmayalso noticeifsomething iswrong.
Scientificallyviewedfriendshipis a phenomenon whichisequallydifficultto explainand exploreaslove,but recentlywithpsychology, andmagnetic resonance imagingit has been possible to studythereactions that friendship creates in a person.